Positive parenting is about bringing out the best in your child. Listen and try to
understand their point of view, encourage their efforts and you will really start to
form the basis of a good relationship. They will always be your child but allowing
them to develop, grow and establish their independence will give them the
confidence they need.
In trying to help, it may appear that you are nagging. Learning from their mistakes,
where it is safe to do so, is a good thing. It can be easy to point out where you
think things are going wrong and forget to notice the things that go right. Everyone
enjoys a bit of praise and encouragement, so when they do well, tell them.
Children gradually learn to make their own decisions, which may not always fit
with yours. That is why tension is normal. Choose your battles and let some go!
You might find that their friends seem to take priority as they get older. This is
normal but you might feel jealous and even feel a bit left out.
A sense of self-esteem and being aware of dangers is the best protection you can
give your child. Let them know you’re around to talk about puberty and changes in their body,
sexual health and relationships. Let them know that you will always be there as a support
through growing up, at exam times and on into adulthood.
Dads can often be forgotten, but it is important to remember that both parents are just as
important as each other. Parents need to work together and keep to the same rules. This
applies when disciplining your child, and it is also important that you do not take sides in an
argument. Parents should never argue in front of their child, and if you are separated, it’s
important to agree on your parenting roles and responsibilities.
They seem unhappy, have mood changes, are unusually secretive and are avoiding you.
Could you be doing what you think is right without listening to how they feel?
Try to develop an open relationship. Be supportive and let them know you are always there to listen.