Loss of a loved one can be through their death, moving away, divorce or
separation, or a parent in prison.
Death of a loved one causes a range of feelings as they try to cope with what has
happened. They may feel anger at the person who died, at you, at others or
themselves. They may feel guilty, possibly blaming themselves in some way. Talk
about what has happened as much as they want to.
Separation and divorce is hard. The more your child knows what is going on, the
easier they will find it to cope. Children can think that their parents breaking up is
somehow their fault and they have done something wrong. Let them know that
what has happened is not their fault. Tell them you are both there for them. Tell
your child’s school what is happening so they can give extra support if needed.
Whoever your child misses is important to your child. Support them and let them
know you are there.
Encourage your child to keep
in touch, perhaps by writing
letters or drawing pictures. Let
them know that their parent in
prison still loves them and talk
to them about a possible
prison visit. Talk about what
you will tell others and how
your child feels about that.
They may not wish friends at
school to know. You may wish
to tell your child’s school in
confidence so they can offer
There is a lot to think about when
a relationship ends, especially if
you have children. You may be
worried about money, where you
will live and what the future holds.
There can be difficult issues to
address with your ex-partner, such
as working out when they can see
the children. As well as sorting out
the practicalities, it is important to
remember the emotional needs of
your children and to get support if
you need it.
What to do straight away:
The following should be dealt with
Protect yourself and your
Check your immigration status.
Know your housing rights.
Claim benefits and tax credits.
Contact your bank.
Protect joint assets.
Depending on your situation, you
may also need to get urgent legal
Source: NHS Choices, gingerbread.org.uk
Has a significant person
left your child’s life through
separation, death or
Have you thought about
how this will affect your
Talk to them, let them
know you are there for
them. Tell the school and
get extra support.