Managing behaviour

Managing behaviour

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Every day, your child learns new things. It is what makes childhood such an exciting time. Your child will learn from you and your example. As a parent, you have an important job in teaching them about your values and beliefs.

Childhood is a good time to teach them good behaviour because they respect and want to be close to you. Using positive feedback is a great idea. Give lots of praise to build up your child’s self-esteem by talking about their strengths and not their weaknesses. If they have done well in a test at school or have points for good behaviour, praise them. Your opinion of your child has a huge impact on what they think of themselves, so being too critical can damage confidence.

Growing up can be a challenging time, let them know you are there to support them. Sometimes it can come as a bit of a shock when your child starts to develop and change, it can be difficult to ‘let go’. As your child gets older you can agree together on boundaries and levels of trust. Your child will have new challenges and sometimes worries like school work, exam pressure and peer pressure. Their behaviour both in and out of school is important. Give them a little responsibility and reward them with praise and encouragement if they do well. Of course, you are still their parent and they still need you. Be there to support them.

Mood swings

Puberty often brings on mood swings. This is often put down to the surge of hormones produced at the start of and during puberty. Therefore it can be perfectly normal to feel happy one minute, and depressed, angry or frustrated the next. Mood swings usually stabilise as they head towards their late teenage years, but if you are worried contact your GP.

Tips

  • Set boundaries and rules in your child’s life - most children are happier living with rules.

  • Be consistent, do not tell your child off for jumping on the table one minute and then let them do it the next.

  • Rules work better if your child knows why they exist.

  • What you say and how you act can affect their behaviour.

  • Do not lose your temper.

  • Work on developing a sound relationship early on.

 

Play

Play is important because it helps your child feel good about themselves. Having fun with your child and using play as a way of teaching good behaviour can be fun for both of you.

Please see the link below for factsheets that can help you deal with:
Dealing with tantrums
Discipline and your child
The restless and excitable child
www.rcpsych.ac.uk

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My child seems to ignore everything I say or do.

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Are they in trouble at school?

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Talk to them. Be positive about the good things. Try to discuss why they are acting this way.